Why do people answer every ” how are you doing” with “I’m doing great” or “Everything is going just fine?
If you ask the same person this question every day of three hundred and sixty-five days of the year, the answer remains the same, “Fine” ” great” “perfect” “lovely”.
You see someone crying at a corner and you approach the person and ask, “are you okay?” the answer will be “yes, I’m alright.” And if you’re not the type that knows how to force words out of the mouth of people, there it ends.
Are we always alright?
We’re not always fine. Sometimes we’re almost dead on the inside being smothered by a huge problem or multiple problems.
I’m not talking about minor issues but those pressing ones that go to bed with us, inject us with insomnia and cause us sleepless nights.
These issues sometimes abound in each one of us and we put a lovely mask over it to hide it perfectly from others.
We all put up these appearances because we dont want anyone to know we’re not okay.
We wear goggles to hide our teary eyes, smile at everyone, laugh hard at every small joke and appear super high spirited to cover it all. We do this because;
- We feel that once someone knows about it, the whole world gets to know and that’s doom.
- We don’t want to be mocked. We dont want anyone to make fun of us
- We don’t want to bother anyone. We feel that once the person gets to know, he or she sees us as a burden.
- We’re ashamed of sharing it. Just can’t stand the shame.
- We want to blend in, fit in, maintain status and so on and opening up might kick us out of a relationship or group.
What happens when we keep it all inside?
We worry and when worry fails to work for us, we either get sick and die or end it all with our own hands.
Is it wise to share our problems with someone else?
Yes. Yes. Yes please.
Share your personal disturbing issues with a family member or a trusted friend or life coach.
I would rather share my problem with a family member or a good friend or even a special stranger than be destroyed by it.
I also like sharing issues with smart old people. They are good companies in all situations.
There must always be that one person you can pour your heart to. Someone who can at least help you see reasons to not worry too much.