Siandi’s mother passed away while giving birth to her.
Siandi’s father remarried but didn’t get any other child and in his desperation to have a male child who would retain his family name, he arranged with a man to put his daughter in a family way.
She became heavy at seventeen. He was happy and prayed non-stop for everything to go well but while giving birth to a female child, Siandi gave up the ghost.
In certain culture, every child is important but to retain the family name as well as to retain or inherit the family property, a male child is needed.
In such culture, a woman without a male child is regarded as a stranger in her husband’s home and is standing on one leg‘ and has no right over the husbands properties once the husband kicks the bucket while the one with a male child is regarded as a part and parcel of the family and is sitting as the queen with her male children as the heirs. She and her children have the right over the husband’s properties.
This particular tradition has been looked at as wrong but no one has been coauragious enough to fight against it even though there have been many deliberations and debates over it.
Some powerful women have tried in the past to fight this bad tradition and to rebuff it but then, what is written is written. Nothing much could be achieved.
As long as there is no male child, the inheritance is shared among the man’s brothers. If he had no brothers, a male relations would take over.
I have a friend with nine female children who can’t stop having children because she must have a male child so as to sit as the queen.
I think this tradition must stop. A child is a child and every child wether male or female should be given equal right to family inheritance and I think this name retaining thing doesn’t make much sense since no one knows what happens after they’re gone.