Musing | One’s Actual Character Shows Up When Under Pressure

Normally, I don’t curse, neither do I ‘return’ curses and as a motorist driving daily in a busy city,  I understand bad words well and no matter how calm a driver I am, I could be pushed to react to the insults hauled at me by other motorists just for little or no reason at all. I’ve heard words like, “Take that thing you call a car out of the road! “You better go get yourself a good driver, woman!” Don’t you know how to use traffic lights?”( I slowed down when the light turned yellow by the way and of course this annoys most motorists) “Come, woman, take that old box out of my way!” On a good day, I’ve been called a “witch” and a “bloodsucker”, I couldn’t sleep for days because of the last two insults. I’m human, and not some kind of robot, the first thing that comes to my mind is to say one or two bad words but I had to zip it and endure. My no-cursing character had been established over a long period even as a child. I trusted myself in that area and my kids know I don’t use cursing words. But, a day came in which I was insulted by a pedestrian. She rained insults on me for not using my horn to alert her that my vehicle was right behind her. She called me a ‘stupid woman’ and I couldn’t believe my ears.  I didn’t use my horn quite alright, but I tried to avoid her. It was when I had avoided her that she looked back and attacked verbally and cruelly. Well, I returned her insult and felt so bad afterwards for doing that. That same day I realized that no matter how good you want to be, things are bound to happen to make one fail but if one is able to overcome the urge to be bad when pressured – that’s a great character. Maintaining a good character is hard but not impossible. I resolve once more to let go of things that drag my personality to the mud and to work hard to maintain a credible character no matter what.

Dear Reader,

Hope you’re having a wonderful Holiday. I know how busy and excited all Christians can be this season. Hope you understand why my posts aren’t coming as should. Bear with me my dear❤. I’m busiest during holidays, especially Christmas season – you won’t believe it. Lots of people around to give attention to. So, I’m going to be musing a lot about things happening around me and my emotions.

I’ll keep reading your great posts as much as I can. So, keep them coming.❤

Fiez will be back on 7th January by God’s grace with my regular posts. Thanks for being a part of my blog.

Merry Christmas🎄🎅🎁💖!

African Proverbs – Inspiration

Knowledge without wisdom is like water in the sand.
– African Proverb
When a middle falls into a deep well, many people will look into the well but few will be ready to go down after it.
-African Proverb
Those who accoplish great things pay attention to little ones.
– African Proverb
He who refuses to obey, cannot command.
– African Proverb
Ingratitude is sooner or later fatal to its author.
– African Proverb.

A Quote By Tom Petty – I Feel Sorry For Kids These Days…

“I feel sorry for kids these days. They get so much homework. Remember the days when we put a belt around our two books and carried them home? Now they’re dragging a suitcase. They have school all day, then homework from six until eleven. There’s no time left to be creative.”- Tom Petty

I feel Sorry for kids of nowadays too.

They leave for school by 6:30 am, dismiss by 4 pm, reach home by 5 pm, nap for 30 minutes, homework for 2 hours. Before they know it, they’re being rushed to go to bed because waking up the next day must be at exactly 4:30 am.

Why do kids spend so much time at school and go home with so much homework?

Nowadays, they have a more complex scheme of work with too many important subject areas to cover. We’re talking about 16 to 17 subjects for a primary class. I compare it to 8 to 9 subjects I had during my own time and have to say its way too much for a child.

With 17 subjects in the hands of the teachers, it means longer time at school, more assignments and more homework. If teachers should dismiss them earlier than required, they won’t be able to cover the scheme of work before the term runs out.

The teachers are also suffering it, they need to spend more time at school than the kids do. They need to come to school before them and go home after them with worry on how to carry each child along the next day.

How do parents feel about this?

Most parents like their kids staying longer at school. This is because the kids are kept away safe until they come back from work. In that case, it becomes a necessity for these parents.

Majority of the parents love their kids to stay busy with study all day and have a home tutor as well waiting for these kids when they come back from school. For them, it’s okay, no taking of chances.😳

Some parents don’t like it. They feel the kids are being exhausted at school and get so tired by the time they come home. These parents want their kids to dismiss by 1:30 to 2 pm every day with little homework. They want a balanced life for these kids – family time, time out with friends, participate in house chores, go to kids gatherings and so on.

Does this extended period of learning make today’s kids any smarter than we were?

Oh Yes!

I don’t know about you. My kids are way too smarter than I was. In fact, they outsmart me even now when it comes to primary academics and sometimes they ask me questions to know if I know what they know and then giggle when I’m not able to give an answer without involving Google. And you know the things I learned in University? They know some too.

What are they lacking that we gained?

During our time, we had enough time to get creative through after-school play with other kids and to explore the community we lived in by visiting our friends often. At home, we had time for chores and through these chores, we learned how to do many things at a very early age. Now, kids hardly have time for anything during school days.

I guess Saturdays and Sundays are enough for unwinding.


What do you think about the time kids spend at school these days and the amount of homework they go home with?

Language Vs Writing

A language is a tool for communication and not a barrier to writing.

– Bernard Kelvin Clive

It’s true most people prefer to write in Eglish language because it’s the universal language and large proportion of the populace get to read their work. However, writing is not limited to the English language alone. Any writer can write in any language of choice as long as he’s good at the language and can write good stuff.

An aspiring writer, for example, doesn’t need to wait until he has mastered the English language art and become a guru before writing his first book. He can write in any language he is more comfortable with.

If a writer’s writing is good, the good news will definitely go round, and the world will get to know about it through the speakers of that language and probably demand for translation.

So, do not be discouraged from writing, if English is not your native language and you have not been opportune to master it as to write with it.

Writers write to communicate, and any language has someone who understands it.

It doesn’t matter which language you write in, as long as your writing is good.

– Chinua Achebe

The quote above says it all- the language you write in doesn’t matter. What you need to focus on is good writing.