Lots of unimaginable things have happened to unsuspecting people to make them assemble a strong barrier round their trusts and most of the time whisper to their souls when trusting calls, ‘trust no one!’
No doubt about the betrayals and cheatings and deceits and stabs in the backs – which are prevalent in most our societies. However, we still need trust to coexist.
Do not believe in the saying ‘Trust no one’.
Some people are guided by this principle to the extent that everyone in their circle of life is a suspect. That’s why some men and women investigate their spouses even without any sign they’re cheating on them.
Some are guided by this principle because it’s hard for them, after a terrible life experience, to trust again but you know when we find trusting people hard because someone in their circle betrayed our trust, we can’t do anything fruitful with them – we have serious problems.
These people need us to trust them
We owe them our trusts and we have no option than to trust them because our lives without trust can be uncomfortable if not hazardeous.
We need to trust them until we find them unworthy of our trusts. Even at that we need to trust someone else in their circle when one fails us.
All people are not the same
It’s possible to distrust everyone in a family, country, community, circle because our minds are biased against them die to a terrible trusting experience.
A man cheated or abandoned by his spouse might conclude that all women are the same and distrust all women. Likewise, it’s possible for a lady to distrust all men because of her bad experience with one man.
This doesn’t have to be so.
Everyone is not the same. All men are not the same, All women are not the same. All companies are not the same and all banks are not the same.
There are still good people out there and there are still people who can be trusted. A lot of them.
There should be balance between being careful and trusting
Even though I think it’s wise to be careful with people to outsmart cheats, scammers and the likes, we shouldn’t do it in such a way that person begins to suspect we don’t trust them.
There are situations when someone who had betrayed his trust will need you to give him a second chance, it depends on you to decide if you can risk trusting again and it depends on the relationship. But in that it case, it’s hard.
Do Not ‘Over-Trust’ Anyone
A married man once asked a single lady out on a date. The lady knew he was married and asked him what if your wife finds out? He replied, “my wife overtrusts me and will never find out.”
That’s exactly why some marriages have lasted long. You just have to close both eyes in trust. So, overtrusting in marriage to me it’s okay if someone ever wants to remain married, you just have to choose to be a complete nincompoop to keep going. Love is blind.
In other cases, we need to trust people but not overdo it. It calls for caution. Be careful with how you trust people. Do not trust them with everything.
Do not be guided by the saying, ‘trust no one’
We need to trust people for them to participate positively in our lives.
Do not overdo trust. Be careful in trust and look out for a bad sign.
If it demand that you close both eyes in trust, keep one eye open. Do not be fooled.
© Florence Ezekafor
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