We all have goals. These goals are important to us. Sometimes we put in so much to achieve them and sometimes things fail to work as planned. It’s human to get discouraged as a result while a whole lot of things get attacked- our confidence, happiness, will, zeal and so on. Gradually we might become hopless and frustrated.
Frustration leads to irritation and sometimes to intense anger when the irritation gets out of control. This anger sometimes is transferred to our surrounding – people and things get attacked somehow.
Frustration can be lethal. Apart from the minor day to day frustrations that make us punch and kick things on our way and talk harshly to people and things around us, there is also a kind that makes on hopeless and wants to give up on life or destroy valuable things in violent anger.
It’s hard to figure out it’s frustration at first. It’s always that this person has done this and that person has done that to annoy or irritate us. But if one could look deep, one finds out that the negative emotions are induced by frustration. It could be that the annoyance or frustration is work-based, business-based like failed project, finantial loss, lost contract, valuable customer loss, failed relationships like breakups, divorce and so on.
Once you realise it’s frustration eating you up, and you know the trigger, you could apply measures to manage it;
Distant yourself from events
Feel the frustration and let go
Be calm and take action
Distinguish between wants, needs and reality
You could take action to change the situation if the situation can be changed and accept the situation once you can’t do anything about it.
Find means to distract your mind from focusing on the trigger
We should not ignore our frustrations thinking it will stop by itself. We should take action to manage it and keep it under control.
We could decide to share how we feel with someone close to us.
Three Things I do When I get frustrated
I talk about it with my big sister
I cry on her shoulder and and she dabs my eyes, checks jaws with the end of her wrapper while wispering kind consoling words. At the end we both smile at my stupid emotion.
Both of us plan on what action to take to eliminate the trigger.
We would like to know how you manage your own frustration. Please share with us. You could help someone stay safe.
Thanks for reading💖