Male Child

Siandi’s mother passed away while giving birth to her.

Siandi’s step mother couldn’t have children and her father needed a male child, an heir who would retain the family name and possessions when he’s no more.

In his desperation, he arranged for a man who defiled his daughter and put her in a family way.

Siandi took in at seventeen.

His father was happy and waited eagerly for the boy. But while giving birth to a female child, Siandi gave up the ghost.


In most cultures, Male and female child can be an heir while in few cultures a Male child alone is regarded as the heir. Female child is married off to have no right over her father’s inheritance.

In such culture, a woman without a male child is regarded as a stranger in her husband’s home and has no right over the husband’s properties once he is passed.

Some powerful women have fought against this bad tradition. But it stands as I punch my keys. Nothing much could be done to put it to an end.

I know of a woman who got nine female children but ouldnan’t stop having children because she must have a male child.

If only this tradition could be wiped off…

Why even bother about the name retaining or who takes the inheritance after when people don’t know what happens when they’re gone?

I whouldn’t care!

11 Comments Add yours

  1. Muntazir says:

    This is really sad.

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  2. Henry says:

    More like a committed African writer.

    This is what I call trends and issues in an African world.

    But as a person my kind will strive to narrow the gap.at all cost.just that,some ladies too needs to be educated to help in quenching such undesirable inferno.

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    1. Thank you Henry🙂Youre right, education plays a part. I think our culture plays even greater part – if female gender is given equal right over family inheritance, the stigma attached to not having a male child would cease to be.

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  3. I salute your your ability to aptly portray such a harsh reality in a short piece. Reading through this story, the travails of Nnu Ego in Buchi Emecheta’s “Joys of Motherhood”. It’s sad that people still place value on a particular gender at the expense of the other. It’s even more pathetic that women are always at the receiving end. I know of a family where the mother gave birth to 8 children (all females) just because of the ‘quest’ for a male child. I think it’s the impoverishment of the mind.

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    1. Thank you lbk. It’s the bitter reality and as you rightly said, women are at the receiving end. Men are ridiculed too for not being man enough to have male children by his fellow men especially by fellow kingsmen in meetings. You can imagine that. I feel for such people. In my area, what such family do is to keep one of the girls from getting married so she could have children in her fathers house as in the case of the story above, focusing on having male children. This is bad for the girl. Very bad.

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  4. bukolaorry says:

    Oh how I hate this tradition. My husband is the only male child of his parents and I have only 2 girls, and some people still tell me I need to have a male child to retain the family name. My in-laws ain’t complaining thank God they are open minded people and they don’t have that type of tradition. The ugly part is that those that tell me this are not even our relatives🙄. My husband tries to shun them when they say it and he tells them ” a child is a child” Children are blessings from God, who cares about the gender.

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    1. Thank God you have a supportive husband. And good to know his family is supportive too. You’re really blessed. In this modern society, it baffles me how this tradition can still exist. I have a friend whose husband’s family got a wife for her husband because she didn’t get a male child but she’s blessed with a sweet husband just like you who said no to them. Those sweet girls of your will do you both proud. ❤

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      1. bukolaorry says:

        Amen thank you very much. And thanks for sharing a topic like this. It’s so unfortunate that we still have ugly and horrendous traditions like this in our country.

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        1. It’s my pleasure. Thank you so much.❤

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