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Inspired Sunday #9

I like life in my village and the fact that one can’t hide from the people at any time of the day. It’s unbelievable!๐Ÿ˜„

At my village home, every minute of the day is spent with people. I got so used to it that whenever I found myself alone while there, I felt weird. Yet I’m a type that likes being by myself. It’s ironic.

Naturally, my village is not a place for being alone, each time I travelled I made up my mind to enjoy what was available – people. Deep inside I yearned for an alone time even though it’s not all that possible.

People visit at will. They don’t give a damn if you need some quiet time or not. You don’t expect them to call you before a visit or knock on your door before opening it. You expect that from city people. Your main gate remains open during the day, so they can walk in and out when needed. They only ask, “is anyone in the house” when no one comes out to welcome them.

If you are a writer it’s hard to cope.

You have little or no time for reading or writing. In fact, I tend to put writing aside till when I get back to the city

Communal life is not just a part but the soul of village people. To enjoy the villa, you must be people loving and ready to share all you have. You must be open to large number of people. When you cook, you cook a large quantity of food so that anyone who pays you a visit gets something to eat.

My last visit to the village was fun, we had rambunctious moments. I chatted, laughed and had wonderful discussions with lovely people.

Could you believe I tried hiding myself from people! Well, it didn’t work. Not when they could look for me in my pot of soup and under my bed.

No hiding place.

There was a day I decided to take a day off from seeing certain people. I locked myself up in my roon feigning sleep but my visitor kept calling. She spent five minutes calling. She knew I was around, my car was packed in the compound. I expected her to think I was deep asleep but no. Instead she picked a seat and sat down to wait. ๐Ÿ˜€

What? ๐Ÿ˜€

Well, I refused to see her that day.

The next day, she came back calling and met me sitting with my mother. She quickly pulled a chair close to us and we spent hours babbling.

I waited till I travelled back to the city to resume my daily writing.


As a writer, what could you have done if left in my village for a week with all the people? Hope to hear you opinion.

Hope you have a great week ahead.๐Ÿ’–

Florence Ezekafor View All

I'm a food scientist who has chosen the path of creative writing- the one thing which comes to me naturally.
Back in 2013, my love for teaching young learners propelled me into picking teaching as a career. I taught English, Maths and Science in the United Arab Emirates where I lived for ten years. Right now, I live in Coal City, a beautiful hilly area of my country Nigeria.
My website Fiez-writer is a product of my extreme desire to share my writing with the world. Here, I share fiction, poems, thoughts and writing tips.
A huge part of my life is spent with my lovely family and I'm a proud mother to three brilliant kids.

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  1. Hi Florence

    No at all. We develop as we share.

    I would like to add few more, if they can be of any help.

    You should not be finding village life hard and you also need to remember there is no such thing as lone genius.

    All innovations and inspirations happens through collaborative effort. And there is no one who can lock himself up and can come up with a perfect solution to any problem without interracting with others and travelling different places in search for inspirations, creativity or other means.

    As you will need some inspirations and ideas before sitting down to write anything, I would again suggest that you should change your mindset and think yourself as lucky when people visit you.

    Visiting times, however, need some structuring and also you need to give people permission to visit you whenever they want or specified times, provided they can bring along an inetresting story to talk about.

    This way no one will come unprepared and no one will leave without benefitting from the other.

    One American writer (I will find his name) used to invite other writers to his home to discuss about a particular book (more like book clubs of today). He used to do this to motivate himself and make sure that he reads the book that to be discussed, to benefit from the analytical insights and style of other authors, and gain inspirations from these discussions.

    Similarly, as our people are oral society and the fact we say “when an African old person dies, whole library dies”, by inviting more visitors and adopting some structures to make the discussions interesting, you too can create win-win situations for everyone and gain more inspirations from your visitors.

    Best wishes

    Abdifatah

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    • I love your comment.โ˜บโ˜บ.For a writer working on a novel, it’s hard to cope with lots of people always needing company and attention. There is need for escape, Abdifatah my dear, to a quiet place, for an hour or two to put something down.

      There is this novel I’m sprinting through to publish this year and I went with the hope of doing a chapter or two during that one week stay. I couldn’t write a word because of too many people coming on a daily basis.

      These people have nothing to do with writing๐Ÿ˜€. You can’t even give them visit time. They’re normally friends, family friends, neighbours and relatives whose visits you can’t limit in any way.

      I enjoy the social aspect. I got inspired a lot, but the actual writing aspect was left out. That’s why I said that for a writer, it”s hard to cope but not impossible. One can still write amidst the noise with determination.

      I made up my mind to forget about writing when over there since I’m always carried away.

      Thanks a lot, Abdifatah. Your comment is amazing.

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  2. โ˜บ It’s been a long time I spent some time in the village. However, I enjoyed my stay each time I did. I tell people I’m an old man trapped in a young body. I love the life of the countryside: serene and communal.

    Although I like my privacy a lot as well, I give up on it the minute I step into the village. Over there, it can’t be all man for himself. Instead, everyone is entitled to you. I don’t even bother to do any serious writing. I just take it all in and enjoy my stay. Like they say in our clime, ‘work no dey finish’. I often leave the village rejuvenated and well equipped to pick up from where I left off.

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  3. Hi Florence

    This is typical African culture which we should be proud of.

    For example, when some NGO workers talk about poor African villagers living on $2 a day, though this is not true, what they do not add to their figures are the intangible assets that people exchange freely, which cannot be priced. Secondly in village lives, there is caring and cameraderia. Unlike the reality in some developed countries, no one hears bodies found after they had decomposed, even if one had been living alone. It is common a neighbour knocking other neighbour’s door to say hello. And if one has not been seen for a day, there is a big concern among neighbours.

    Where I am from, Somalia, there is saying “no one enters a house through open door, but open face”. This is rough translation and means that no one visits people who do not welcome their visitors, whether their house doors are open or not. (Unfortunately, Somalia is not as it used to be).

    Therefore, Florence, if people are giving you a visit, it is sign that you are good person, they like you and care about you.

    As for what to do while visitors are there?

    Welcome them well and Keep the conversation going while doing things that you should be doing alongside your writing routines that do not require from you some deep thinkings i.e. sharpening your pencils, tiding your work table, washing your dishes while pouring your visitors cup of teas!

    And by the time they leave, you will be left
    with tired body but rested mind. And with a rested mind you can concentrate on your work better and thank your visitors more.

    If I were to visit Nigeria, I would go with you everywhere until you decide to leave Nigeria!

    Thank you for sharing with the world some of the African cultures.

    Best regards

    Abdifatah

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    • Hi Abdifatah!
      It’s wonderful reading your comment. Thanks for the tips. They’re amazing. I love village life. There is this joy that being with lots of people brings – it’s healing. I don’t know why but I find writing in the village hard. May be it’s just me, I need to be alone to be able to write a thing.
      Thank you once more. Can’t wait to see you in Nigeria.๐Ÿ˜€

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