If you have a secret that you, really, really want to keep a secret, do not share it with anyone, especially if it’s something to do with a past misdeed or a family issue.
Once you reveal it to the first trusted person, the first trusted person reveals it to the second trusted person, the second trusted person reveals it to the third trusted person until your secret develops wings and flies to the end of the world.
You don’t want that to happen.
You Can’t Trust Trusted Friends With Your Secret. They Too Have Their Trusted Friends
This is you telling the first trusted person, ‘ Please, I don’t want to hear this anywhere else.’
The first trusted person, even though they swore before you like this, ‘hey, you know I keep to myself and hardly have time for chit-chatting,’ might be tempted on a merry day to share it with a second trusted person to like this, ‘Please, cover me up. If she finds out I told you, I’d be in hot soup. Here is what she told me…’
This goes on and on and on until you realize that you are wearing a cloth but your nakedness is before the eyes of the world.
I don’t like people telling me their secrets for one reason. It’s a secret. Keep it. I believe that a secret should be kept a secret. Let it live and die with you.
The Worst Kind Of Persons To Tell A Secret
The first worst kind of person to tell a secret is a married person. You know what they say, married couples hardly keep things from each other and it is true. They feel scourged when they keep what they know from each other. They are gossip mates and it’s no sin because they are one.
The next set of people to never share a secret with are people who talk without thinking. Your secret will fall out of their tongues like a raindrop from the sky. It’s no fault of theirs, they can’t just help it.
Some people can just keep secrets. So don’t even try them. You know them by how many secrets they have told in single chitchat. That’s how they will spread your secret as if it’s good news.
So if you don’t want your secret to going viral, don’t let them patronise you.
Some will share your secret to help you to solve a problem, even if their motive is good, you still don’t want another ear to bear it.
If You Must Share A Secret Share It With A Professional.
- Health professionals
- A clergy
A counsellor must keep your family secret or you sue them for a breach of trust if you have the guts. Besides, if they want to be successful in that field, they must meet up with the standard or level of trust required to keep their clients.
Health professionals are the most trusted kind to share humiliating health issues with because they don’t have time to go about wagging tongues with anybody. If they should take about it, it would be logically or professionally with no mention of names.
The clergy especially catholic priests are the best kind to share disturbing misdeeds with. They are bound by an oath to let your secret die with them. Again, like the doctors, they could mention it, especially when it’s a general misdeed.
I think family keeps secrets too. If not for anything they wouldn’t want the family name to attract a dent. The only disadvantage here is that you might live all your life feeling your secret is in their eyes staring at you at the dinner table and condemning you. You might lose their trust and respect in its purest form as well.
I don’t think spouses should hide secrets from each other. Yet some secrets can kill a relationship. One should be wise.
In conclusion, keep your secret, but if sharing with another person is important to you, share it with the right person. That one secret when leaked out can affect your work, relationships, self-image, self-esteem, etcetera.
Have a blessed week ahead.
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