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Word Around Me: Extravagance

Hi everyone! 🙂❤. Hope you’re all doing great. It has been quite a while. I’m busy with an inescapable situation and hopefully, I’ll be back before next week. Can’t wait to read all your beautiful, inspiring and impacting posts.


My son said something about being wasteful yesterday evening. In his words he said, ‘Mum, I think we’re being extravagant.’

At first, I was taken aback. Guilt crept into heart. I checked myself, did some mental calculation of my spendings and could not place my hands on any wasteful spending. Then I began to giggle. He grinned and we stared at each other for a while. I asked him a simple question.

‘Can you give me an instance where “we” were extravagant?’

‘Yesterday you bought lots of snacks and drinks for us,’ he said.

OK. Guilty as charged but I wanted to make sure he understood what “extravagance” was.

‘What do you understand by extravagance?’

‘Being wasteful of money… buying what you don’t really need..or buying too much of what you need,’ he said.

‘That’s right.’ I said. ‘But what did you say before I bought those snacks and drinks?’

‘Hungry?’

‘Yes. You said you were hungry after school and I didn’t want to keep you hungry till we reach home. It means you really needed the snacks to curb your hunger.

‘Oh yeah,’ he said. ‘Oh, that’s true.’

I was still uncomfortable because that was not the only day I bought snacks and drinks for us on our way back from school. Why then did he make such an observation?

I kept thinking about this into the night. Sometimes, we hear angelic voices, calling us back to the right track. It’s probably a future wake up call to be wiser with my spendings.

In the past I have bought things I thought I needed but ended up not using them. Sometimes, I give them out and sometimes, I keep them as if they’re monuments.

There’s so much of extravagance spending going on in the world and it’s okay to buy many cars, change wardrobe every week and eat out in an expensive restaurant everyday, if you’re worth that much of an expenses. But looking at it from my African perspective, there are millions of people out there who could be in need of that extra wasteful expense.

There is no better way to heal the world than to give out to the less privileged so that those who have no clothes to wear, who have no food to and who have no shelter over their heads would have something to lean on.

See you soon❤🤗

Have a great day.

You Friend-zoned Her!!

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You were both friends, just good friends – on a platonic level and it’s just perfect that way.

You did things in common, went out together, had fun and shared secrets.

But one day, she ruined the beautiful twosome camaraderie.

This is what happened.

Both of you were standing on the top of an overhead bridge in your city one Sunday evening watching the speeding cars, chatting and giggling in a carefree manner as usual. The sky was becoming gloomy and cool breeze swept across your frames.

“It’s going to rain today!” You shouted deliberately.

“No it won’t! It’s mid of December!” She shouted like a child.

“It will”

“No it won’t”

“It….,” you couldn’t finish because she took your cheeks into her hands and made to plant a romantic kiss on your lips. She looked like someone on fire.

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It’s obvious she had fallen in love with you, man.

You pulled not just your face but your entire body away from her in horror.😳😳😳 You kept wiping your lips with the back of your and spat non-stop.

She shocked you.

” Oh my goodness! What did you do? Can’t believe this! You’re my friend for goodness sake,” you said and kept spitting her “attempted kiss” away

Her countenance changed. She became ashamed and somehow devastated.

“Well, you’re a handsome young man and I’m a lady with flesh and blood” she said, fidgeting. She placed her palms on her cheeks when she saw you didn’t feel the same way towards her.

Well, you didn’t, you couldn’t and could never feel that way towards her.

“No!” you said firmly and she went limp.

Now it’s clear to her. You had friend zoned her – your favourite friend!

Swallowed by shame, she hastened away.

She’s right. It wasn’t going to rain

You had let her realize that even though you were good friends and enjoyed each other’s company, you had not dreamed of taking your relationship to romantic or sexual level. It’s completely sex-free and that’s what it’s going to be till the world ends. You’ll only settle for just good friends – best of friends.

But she’s in love and can’t be just friends with you anymore.

So things would never be as they used to between both of you – except of course you would pretend to love her as she did.

It’s true you didn’t want to lose her but since you didn’t feel the way she felt, it would never work between you.

So you moved on.

Whenever you saw her by chance and tried to say hello, she would wave at you and hasten away – that’s just it. She didn’t want to have anything to do with you anymore.

You missed her friendship though.

Sad enough

You did take heart.


Thanks for reading.💖